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What kind of India shall
we give to our children?
Some suggestions on how each of us can help reduce communal prejudice and violence

Yousuf Saeed                                                                                                                    Page 5 of 7
 

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Help in curbing violence in your area
If someone from your family or neighbourhood exhorts you to come out and do some 'equivalent' action against 'what the other community has done', try to stop them politely from any such action. Ask them where have they heard the news, and is it confirmed? Always discourage any action of your family members or neighbours that may lead to hostility in the area. If you are unable to persuade the people, and see that things are going out of hand, inform the police or some human rights groups immediately. Try to make friends with other activists of peace and human rights in your town, and keep their contact numbers/address handy. You must also keep the numbers of influential people such as the police commissioner, high court judges, celebrities, journalists, and political leaders such as MLAs or MPs. If you know any people in your area who have a tendency to get violent at the slightest pretext, and may perpetrate communal violence, keep a watch on them. If you observe any of your neighbours or friends keeping a weapon, firearms, or other dangerous items at home – enquire from them casually if they have the license to keep them, and why do they own them. If they don't have a license for the weapons, inform some human rights activists. Some people may tell you that they keep the weapons for self-defense or security. But these could also be used irresponsibly during a riot or violence.

Dealing with the Law
Help the police or authorities in their investigations or combating of a violent or criminal activity. If the authorities announce a special condition such a curfew or any other prohibitory law in your area, do not violate it. If you have been witness to something untoward in your area, remember all the details, so that if you have to report to the police, you can give them all the details. While reporting, insist on filing a First Information Report (FIR), which is basically a detailed written account on a plain paper, of what happened, addressed to the Station House Officer of that police station or police post. Do not change your account on your whim or anybody's pressure – honestly report what you have seen. Also, make sure that the written report signed by you and accepted by the officer, is not altered by anybody in front of you, and get a copy received. If for some reason, the police or the authorities try to arrest or detain you, ask them under which code or law are they arresting you. If they have detained you without a warrant, they have to produce you before the Magistrate within twenty-four hours. In any case, you have the right to ask for a consul or lawyer to defend you. If they want to enter your home for a search, ask them if they have a search warrant.

You MUST help the victim
One unfortunate trait of the urban Indian society is a lack of enterprise in helping people in desperate need or distress. Besides large-scale tragedies where people do volunteer to help, smaller accidents such as road mishaps are deliberately overlooked by everyone. No one wants to get into the police hassle - even if they know that the life of the bleeding person lying on the road could be saved if they took him to the hospital immediately. But WE DO NOT CARE - day after day. So who is at fault - the police or the people? Surely the bureaucratic process of the police investigation is such that the one who tries to help can sometimes land into further trouble. But if you put yourself in the place of the accident victim or his relatives, you will surely blame the people who left the bleeding person unattended. So whatever the situation, WE MUST HELP. The first preference should be to take the victim to the nearest hospital. If that is not possible, then at least call up the police or medical help. If nothing else, at least try to bring the injured victim to a more comfortable posture and location, try to stop the bleeding and apply whatever first-aid measure you can. This applies to all situations including communal violence, criminal attack, road accidents, or natural disasters (God forbid if any of these happen).

Is it news or rumour?
What do you do when the news of some communal violence comes on TV, radio or newspapers? First thing - don't jump to any conclusions until you get a clearer picture. Don't trust entirely on what one channel or newspaper is telling you. If possible, hear the news on different channels, radio stations, and papers. Assume that there can be something more than what the media is telling you. Never take any hurried actions based on the news you hear. While discussing the news at home, workplace, or any public place, never state anything more than the facts you know - even little things said wrongly can deteriorate further and become completely different rumours. Always try to curb the news that sounds like a rumour. If your child brings some disturbing news from outside, don't take it for granted. Ask the child where has he/she heard it. What sorts of people were discussing it, and what was their source of information. Tell the child not to trust any news without confirming it.

How many humans suffered?
In many of our homes, when the news of an accident or violence is heard on television/radio, people start asking about the religion of the victims or effected people - how many Muslims or how many Hindus died? Most unfortunately, some people even express their happiness or satisfaction if the people of the 'other' community have died. This is a dangerous trend and can easily introduce prejudices in the child's young mind. Whenever there is news of a tragedy or riot, express your shock and grief - whatever be the religion or community of the affected people. Even if your children get curious about this, tell them that so many human beings have been affected, not Hindus or Muslims. Give them a sense of the pain and destruction that has occurred to so many humans like them, and how futile all this violence is.

Understanding pain, tolerance, non-violence
Many of our children's textbooks or some TV programmes praise the virtues of non-violence and satyagraha without exploring the human beings' natural tendencies towards anger, violence, and pain. Anger and pain are natural emotions or reaction of the body against unwarranted situations, just like love and affection are for favourable situations. The parents or teachers could evolve some activities or games in which children could get a real sense of pain and violence; how these are stimulated and what is the meaning of 'tolerance' in the real sense. Being tolerant does not mean holding up our anger against someone. To be tolerant means to accommodate the views that may differ from your opinion on a given subject. The intolerance arises from insecurity, and the insecurity of the masses is manipulated by politicians and vested interests, to unleash violence in the society. To make our children feel secure, we must make them recognize that just because somebody's name or faith, or facial features, or colour of skin is different, does not mean that they are conspiring against us, or hate us.

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